We’ve all thought it. “Why is this happening?” When things go wrong in our life, whether it’s a simple conflict or a gut wrenching heartbreak, wouldn’t it be wonderful to have the answer to that question? It’s a question that I have been determined to try and answer. What I have found out, is that although we can’t stop bad things from happening, we can stop feeling like there is nothing we can do about it. I know this sounds incredulous, but hang on. The thing is, what I’ve discovered is this; if we can find out what we are suppose to learn from these awful occurrences, then enduring them won’t have been without value. Sure, bad things will happen to all of us. We can try to just accept that fact. The question is, “why are we able to walk away from some of these things, upset yes, but basically ok, while others leave us uneasy for days, and still others make us feel as though we may never recover? As we discover the answers, we also realize that the formula for discovering our beauty and our uniqueness was always there, hidden within all of our problems. Every single unwelcome occurrence is happening for a reason, and that reason, is to make us understand something important about ourselves and the world around us. Our problems are custom made for us.
Our problems can absolutely be explained, but only if we are willing to open ourselves up to looking to our past experiences. If in the past, our minds and bodies experienced any kind of crisis, big or small, it created a struggle within us. If we experienced emotional or physical abandonment, or any kind of psychological drama, the dynamics of those unresolved occurrences will be repeated again and again in the present until we work through them and resolve them. It is the major and minor traumas of our childhood, that create the problem, and that problem is the “mind/body conflict”. Any conflict between the mind and the body will continue to find new ways of expressing itself until we awaken to it, realize it and resolve it. Of course in our present life, these conflicts don’t show up in the exact, same way. However, they are always made up of the exact, same, uncomfortable dynamics, that brought on the original crisis. Decades of success in healing have proven to me that many of our present problems come from some, past, unresolved situation. Once we have located the original situation, we can ease our bodies and minds by dealing with the emotions we were previously forced to deny. We must somehow coax the uncomfortable, raw emotions to the surface, which is difficult because science tells us that our brains are wired to protect us from feeling them. We need therapies that can override our brains’ good intentions. Resolving past incidents, not only begins to make our present life better, it also begins to restore our original ability to access all of our emotions and move forward with more effectiveness, success and peace. When we understand the healing power of our emotions and when we have access to all of those emotions, life becomes everything it was meant to be. Without them, we are only partially living. The more fully we feel pure emotion, the more fully we live.
This Emotional Life 